Archive - Be Your Own Hero

My Country 'Tis of Three: How I learned to stop worrying and love the Enneagram

It’s a little embarassing to admit a Broadway musical is foundational to my understanding of U.S. history.

Feb 18 •

January 2025

Turning FOMO into JOMO

Somehow over the last 18 months, I stopped using social media.

Jan 21 •

December 2024

A matter of perspective on elections and other things

In which I begrudgingly acknowledge the election might not be as important as I thought

Dec 17, 2024 •

October 2024

Letting go with bravery and grace — lessons from a linen chest

The teakwood chest at the house where I grew up in Pennsylvania always felt a bit magical, despite its prosaic use for storing table linens.

Oct 17, 2024 •

May 2024

All I did was sew a button onto a piece of paper

On envy and the creative life

May 13, 2024 •

April 2024

What does it mean to have a voice?

There is something about singing, particularly in community, that touches a nerve. When I get emotional at these times it is usually when I am also at a…

Apr 2, 2024 •

January 2024

The best of me and the rest of me: Prayer for a New Year

Dear Lord, Creator, divine Spirit of What Is, let me take the best of me into the coming year. I almost added, “and leave the rest behind,” but that’s…

Jan 3, 2024 •

November 2023

Finding queerness, Britney Spears, the Bad Art Friend, and superyachts in the classics

If the Gatsby characters were alive today, I’m pretty sure the Buchanans would own a superyacht, where the rich go to escape — the paparazzi, their…

Nov 18, 2023 •

September 2023

Three lessons from a Kindness Warrior

Eleanor came into my life at just the right time.

Sep 14, 2023 •

August 2023

The friendly place where everyone owns a gun

Why I bought a raffle ticket for an AR-15

Aug 8, 2023 •

July 2023

When you refuse to punch down for cheap laughs

Or, Lessons from a sex comedy

Jul 11, 2023 •

May 2023

When shame loosens its grip

Airing out what had felt so shameful was like disinfecting sticky gunk accumulated over decades of false belief.

May 30, 2023 •

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