My husband ate two different kinds of ice cream, a chocolate covered ice cream bar and chocolate chip cookies. I was made because I can’t eat that many calories without gaining weight! I was tempted to say something to him but I remembered your blog and reminded myself “It’s not your business.”
As I read this, I immediately thought of all my COVID-related judginess. It's a thing I've struggled with a lot this past year and, as time has passed, I've found myself becoming such an angry person. Like, all the damn time. Where can I let go when the actions of others so often don't take into account our collective responsibility for each other's lives? Sigh.
Hooo yeah, that has definitely been a thing with me this year as well. I think what makes me get so angry is feeling that it *is* my business, because their actions have consequences to others, combined with the feeling of powerlessness to do anything about it. What helps me is to take some kind of positive action that maybe doesn't affect that person directly but affirms my values, like posting a picture of me wearing my mask, or thanking someone else for being responsible. It also helps to remember that there are probably plenty of times I have inadvertently caused harm out of ignorance. Actually not probably, definitely.
Thanks for this post! Lots to think about here...
After too many NBMs,it ends up becoming your business.
My husband ate two different kinds of ice cream, a chocolate covered ice cream bar and chocolate chip cookies. I was made because I can’t eat that many calories without gaining weight! I was tempted to say something to him but I remembered your blog and reminded myself “It’s not your business.”
Oh yeah, I can totally relate! My husband seems like he can eat whatever he wants and never gain weight either. It seems unfair, but yeah, NMB!
As I read this, I immediately thought of all my COVID-related judginess. It's a thing I've struggled with a lot this past year and, as time has passed, I've found myself becoming such an angry person. Like, all the damn time. Where can I let go when the actions of others so often don't take into account our collective responsibility for each other's lives? Sigh.
Hooo yeah, that has definitely been a thing with me this year as well. I think what makes me get so angry is feeling that it *is* my business, because their actions have consequences to others, combined with the feeling of powerlessness to do anything about it. What helps me is to take some kind of positive action that maybe doesn't affect that person directly but affirms my values, like posting a picture of me wearing my mask, or thanking someone else for being responsible. It also helps to remember that there are probably plenty of times I have inadvertently caused harm out of ignorance. Actually not probably, definitely.